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When referring to psychologists, a woman can begin to pump – you…

When referring to psychologists, a woman can begin to pump – you can not self-realize, you are suppressed, internal resentments and aggression are…

Mawaddah editorial team · updated 25 August 2026

Original session statement
When referring to psychologists, a woman can begin to pump – you can not self-realize, you are suppressed, internal resentments and aggression are pulled out. In order for the help to be correct, you need methods, specialists, a knowledge base. An Islamic psychologist, an Islamic coach is still a prefix, more a brand for promotion. An Islamic psychologist is a practicing Muslim who practices psychology. There is no special training from the point of view of Islam.

How to read this statement

The material develops one of the theses of in-depth interviews and a family session. These are qualitative statements of participants, not representative statistics or religious conclusions.

The choice of assistant depends on the task. A theologian answers a religious question, a psychologist or mediator helps build communication and solution, a doctor assesses health, and emergency services are needed when security is threatened. One professional should not represent competence in all areas.

Important distinctions

Useful conversation is different from mutual claims. It is based on concrete observation, feeling, need, and doable request. Listening does not mean agreeing with everything; it means being able to accurately retell the other’s position before answering.

A single experience should not become a label for all men, women or families. It is more useful to identify the specific actions involved, the circumstances influencing them and what lies within the couple's own sphere of decision.

Questions for an honest conversation

What specific episode are we discussing?
What did everyone feel and tried to protect?
What enforceable request can be formulated without blame?
On what basis will we know that the agreement works?

You do not need to answer everything in one evening. Choose one question, set aside time and agree not to use what you hear as a weapon in a later argument.

A practical next step

Choose one episode instead of a list of claims for years.
Give each one three minutes without interruption.
Write down one action before the next conversation.

After seven days, assess observable results rather than intentions: what changed, what proved too difficult and which part of the agreement needs clarification.

When professional help is needed

If the conversation invariably turns into humiliation, threats or days of silence, it is better to spend it with a family psychologist or mediator.

Consultation should not remove the couple's right to make their own decision. A responsible professional states the limits of their competence, protects confidentiality and refers onwards when a question lies outside their training.