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Contemporary Muslim family topics

We selected 189 family-session articles and organised them into 13 substantial subject areas. Exact repeats point to one article, preventing duplicate search content.

This is an editorial interpretation of qualitative interviews and participant responses. The statements are not statistics, fatwas or a universal description of Muslim families.
2 articles

Criteria for choosing a spouse

  1. Both women and men understand that religiosity should be among the criteria…
  2. As far as I know, girls need already wealthy young people
6 articles

External causes of conflict

  1. External causes are labels, stereotypes that are formed in society
  2. External factors amplify internal factors – this is noise that increases the…
  3. The external factor is the influence of relatives and environment
  4. Let’s be honest, the institution of the family is falling apart …
  5. There are non-family questions - a man may have problems at work…
  6. A separate modern complexity is the clash of religious norms, traditions, attitudes
32 articles

External challenges of the modern family

  1. In the age of information technology, when all lives in the palm…
  2. Influence of opinion of social networks
  3. Strong influence of modern society and social networks
  4. Social Media and Comparison Cultures that Increase Resentment, Envy and Ingratitude
  5. Social media and a culture of comparison
  6. Social media – someone gives good gifts, and she does not
  7. Comparison of your family with the Internet family
  8. Impact of mass culture and globalization
  9. Showing the family/all their problems, or vice versa, the merits
  10. Materialism and the never-ending worldly race – housing, cars, travel, brands and…
  11. Publicity unlimited: External challenges of the modern family
  12. Advertising for “unrestrained consumption” (so-called success)
  13. Education of individualism and selfishness in society
  14. The cult of individualism is to “choose yourself,” avoid restrictions, and end…
  15. Intervention of parents and relatives, psychologists, trainings
  16. Lack of the institution of the family as a whole
  17. Lack of guidance and authority in the issue of raising children
  18. The blurring of spiritual and cultural reference points
  19. Parents interfere in the relationship between husband and wife
  20. Everything is expensive – halal mortgage, light, gas, the husband has 2-3 jobs to work
  21. Lack of Islamic Affordable Banking
  22. If there are reasons for the permissibility of divorce, life is difficult…
  23. Social, economic and political instability
  24. Financial pressure and the family economy
  25. Financial and domestic difficulties
  26. Finance: scarcity and excess
  27. The law is on the side of the woman after divorce, the children stay with the mother
  28. Negative effects of traditions and customs on family/international marriages
  29. When divorced, the child will remain with the woman, and the man will have to pay alimony
  30. Difficulty accepting integration into secular society
  31. Stereotyped (sometimes negative or often frivolous) attitude from society
  32. Exaltedness, closeness, opposition to society of the Muslim family
5 articles

Family after childbirth

  1. Nothing should ever change
  2. The area of raising a child can be transferred to a man
  3. Relationships between spouses should not be replaced by relationships with children
  4. According to Kuran, you need to feed for 2 years, after birth…
  5. As the children grow, different opinions are revealed - the father wants…
3 articles

Family after five years of marriage

  1. It happens that the marriage was concluded at an early age, up…
  2. Both man and woman develop, grow emotionally, spiritually, morally
  3. Family forces a person to acquire what he needs now, forced him to teach a new level
6 articles

First year of family life

  1. Marriages are most often destroyed in the first year
  2. In Islam, there is the concept of muhasab an-nafs – I set…
  3. In the first year there are problems due to the fact that…
  4. In the first year, people go from candy and bouquet to insight…
  5. Before marriage, a person tries to be a worthy partner
  6. The first year or two is the highest divorce rate
6 articles

Frequent family difficulties

  1. The girl comes and is unhappy with her husband, because she has…
  2. Women often come with a complaint that the man does not provide for the family
  3. When a wife is worried about finances, it's her nature to look for safety
  4. On Saturday, I had a Muslim family – it turned out that…
  5. For older men, not young men, the question of a second wife is often discussed
  6. A woman does not follow her husband's path
16 articles

Internal causes of conflict

  1. If there is a conflict, the problem is the inability to talk, listen, solve the problem
  2. Conflict does not arise in a flat place – there are always reasons
  3. Young people do not hear each other - listen to one, then…
  4. The man does not understand that he takes his wife under his responsibility
  5. The main factor is a lack of personal maturity and responsibility
  6. Over the past two centuries, there has been a tendency for women…
  7. Most often, they do not take responsibility, try to evade or shift it
  8. There will always be times in the family when you have to give to someone else
  9. When a woman sits on Instagram and sees a woman with 6…
  10. We are part of the material world and we see ourselves in this way
  11. Unrealistic expectations of the parties – a person has drawn a picture and is looking for it
  12. In Islam, the family is not built on legal arguments
  13. We have formed material values, and we try to justify them with religious arguments
  14. We lack knowledge of family psychology
  15. We do not have understanding and readiness to create families – we…
  16. The first is a lack of understanding and unwillingness to understand the other
35 articles

Preparation for marriage

  1. It is important to understand why you are getting married
  2. You need to talk about everything before marriage, even uncomfortable questions such…
  3. They need to know what they want out of marriage
  4. It is important to know yourself as a person and understand that…
  5. It should be understood that the Muslim family is not just a…
  6. That that side and you're not perfect
  7. Ideally, they should be given the idea that the first year in…
  8. There must be an understanding that men and women are different people…
  9. You need to understand what conditions everyone is used to
  10. We are allowed to ask about a person from third parties to…
  11. Marriage is not just about love and beautiful relationships
  12. Why are they family: Preparation for marriage
  13. It is necessary to understand the purpose of marriage: to create a…
  14. That feelings change shape over time - falling in love gives way…
  15. Before marriage, it is important for future spouses to discuss the main…
  16. Before marriage, they need to understand whether they fit each other in values
  17. There should be a discussion of household and economic issues - with…
  18. It is better to agree “on the shore” about whether you will…
  19. It is necessary to discuss expectations before marriage: religiosity, housing, wife's work…
  20. From marriage to the foreground, the wife should have a husband, then…
  21. Marriage does not automatically solve a person’s internal problems
  22. Know what you can and can’t agree to in family life
  23. Understanding that both spouses have different upbringing/different experiences/different family rules…
  24. Understand your needs, strengths and weaknesses
  25. Knowing the role of husband/wife
  26. Know your responsibilities and rights by talking at the beginning of the journey
  27. It is necessary to study in advance the rights and duties of…
  28. It is important to look not only at external religiosity, but also…
  29. How Everyone Handles Conflict and Resentment – Silence, Outburst, Retirement, and Arrange…
  30. You need to understand how people behave in difficult situations
  31. Marriage is primarily a partnership – patience and acceptance, mutual help and…
  32. Everything can be negotiated, the main thing is to have a desire…
  33. The real rights and duties to each other according to Shariah …
  34. Preserving a family is the job of both spouses
  35. Be able to negotiate: Preparation for marriage
4 articles

Real family and ideal expectations

  1. Conflicts can smolder in Muslim families, but problems are mostly solved within…
  2. Ideal families, which reflect the worldview I talked about, I almost never met
  3. Everyone is looking for an environment where they are comfortable, so I…
  4. Roughly 40 percent of men and women understand what separating zones should…
11 articles

Roles and responsibilities of spouses

  1. There are men's duties, there are women's duties
  2. There are men's rights, there are women's rights, and the role as…
  3. A woman is a family, a hearth, a home, creating peace and comfort
  4. He is responsible for finance and Islamic education
  5. A man is a guarantor of family security: physical, informational
  6. Men and women have different pyramids of responsibility, different priorities
  7. There are no questions in household duties, they are intuitive, laid down…
  8. We Tatars often hear that the husband is the head, and the…
  9. Spouses understand that they have rights and responsibilities
  10. The health of the family is that everyone knows their business
  11. A man should be aware that he is responsible and understand that…
45 articles

The internal challenges of the modern family

  1. Misunderstanding of the family and the responsibility of spouses
  2. Incorrect prioritization (both in ahirat and dunya matters) Blurring or distorting religious…
  3. No Marriage Purposes – Why They Need Each Other
  4. Poor understanding of the purpose of marriage
  5. Deficiency of the present conversation, replacing it with everyday life
  6. The desire to correct a partner through criticism
  7. Personal characteristics and behavioral patterns, such as inability to compromise
  8. Accumulation of grievances, no skill of active listening and expressing needs without…
  9. Unspoken and accumulated grievances
  10. Unwillingness to compromise and lack of constructive dialogue on problematic topics
  11. Inability to talk and solve problems
  12. Inability/readiness to hear your spouse, inability to correctly formulate your request
  13. Weak spiritual life of the family - the lack of joint goals…
  14. Demanding a divorce without good reason on both sides
  15. Mutual understanding is lost, many disagreements happen and everyone remains at his own pace
  16. Violation of the principle of mutual respect and support Lack of emotional…
  17. Underbredness of spouses – does not trust, constant reproaches, discontent with each…
  18. There is no understanding between parents and spouses
  19. Lack of calm and mercy in relationships
  20. Loss of trust and security in the family
  21. Loss of trust, disappointment, unfulfilled expectations
  22. If a husband and wife earn the same income, the husband demands…
  23. When the headship passes to the wife, and the husband concedes
  24. A double standard, a woman is a careerist, where she starts cheating…
  25. Violation of hierarchy: The internal challenges of the modern family
  26. Violation of family roles and balance of responsibility
  27. Misunderstanding that men and women differ anatomically, physiologically, psychologically
  28. Different understanding of roles in the family (women take on male responsibilities)
  29. Displacement of roles - the husband becomes either overly demanding, or, conversely…
  30. Employing a wife when she forgets her duties
  31. Excessive expectations and demands on a partner, allegedly justified by religion
  32. Unreasonable / false expectations from the partner
  33. Misunderstanding religious and family responsibilities, unrealistic expectations of marriage and partner…
  34. Infantilism, selfishness of both girls and young people entering into marriage, lack…
  35. Lack of internal maturity of the spouse
  36. Difficulty in accepting the need to resort to third-party (qualified) assistance in…
  37. Take the garbage out of the house – to mothers, women go…
  38. When you talk about your relationship to others, not necessarily the wife…
  39. Excessive involvement, interference of relatives, family of a party
  40. A man at one time or another misses an important stage in…
  41. Men often take only the financial part in marriage, forgetting about the…
  42. Fathers are not involved in the upbringing of children (family)
  43. A woman’s disinterest in gaining knowledge, both religious and secular
  44. Addictive behavior of one of the spouses
  45. Loss of attraction to each other or one of the spouses
18 articles

Who to turn to for help

  1. First of all, close friends with whom they share – especially if…
  2. The wife in any case should go to her husband - not…
  3. The Caucasian culture is very contradictory, sometimes very tough, but there is…
  4. Men rarely pull problems out of themselves, from the family, the girl…
  5. They go to the hazrat when the conflict has already reached such…
  6. Some imams were trained in mediation, some were trained in KFU in conflictology
  7. The main criterion is the purpose for which the family came to Hazrat
  8. The Tatars turn to their Khazrats, the Caucasians to their
  9. Imams have a big burnout problem
  10. It can be a religious person who does not officially work in…
  11. There is such a thing as a digital minbar
  12. Psychologists are not well treated in the religious sphere
  13. Muslim psychologists often simply Islamize the thoughts they have drawn from their…
  14. When referring to psychologists, a woman can begin to pump – you…
  15. It is important that a psychologist or specialist has similar life experiences
  16. All Muslim countries work in a cognitive-behavioral approach
  17. Psychology, it should not become a worldview of a person, it should not become an akyda
  18. Psychologists and Hazrats are often united by unprofessionalism, misunderstanding of meanings…